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Resolved Question: Moms or dads: Do you think this mother took this to the extreme?

This morning I was listening to the radio while driving in. And they are playing the best of because the morning crew is on vacation...so they played a spring break bust from a couple of months ago. This mom called in and wanted them to call her daughter because she just wanted to tell her that she loved her and she went on to describe as this sweet innocent little girl that is a cheer leader and everyone likes her yadda yadda. So when they called her, it was obviously pretty early in the morning and she was saying that she couldn't talk right then because her boyfriend was sleeping next to her. So the dj asked if she could go out in the hallway or something and she said she didn't have any clothes on. So then her mom busts in and starts screaming at her. And proceeded to tell her that she wasn't going to the university that she got into this fall anymore and she was staying at home and going to community college so she could keep a close eye on her. Well obviously the girl was about to graduate so she was 17 if not already 18. Do you think her mom has a right to tell her she can't go to the university she was accepted to because she was doing things she shouldn't have been doing during spring break. I'm a little indifferent about this, while I think she should definitely be punished and told it's not okay to go whoring around, telling her she can't go to college is a little much. I mean that is her future right there. I must add her mom didn't even know that she had a boyfriend. So parents: what would you do and how would you punish her? I used whoring for lack of a better word, not implying that she is doing that. But lift her in a way where she won't end up that way, not that she is. I know nothing about her, but a lot of people have lost their sense of self these days and I think they snooze with people too soon before really getting to know each other. That's just my opinion, not saying I'm right or wrong, but I know everyone doesn't feel that same way and to each their possess. I agree Remy! Okay people, please cease getting bent out of shape over my choice of the word whoring...it was used lightly and was used for lack of a better word. I do agree if she is going to college on her mom's dime, I probably wouldn't let her go either, but I also agree that a lot of moms decide these punishments and never stick to them. I've seen this happen a lot with friends and when I was working with the youth at church I saw it happen every the time. They'd say they were going to take their cell phone or whatever away and the next week they'd have it again. I also agree a chick! You can't tell you kids not to, because they will make their possess choice, but you can discuss safe sex. Me too Parent! I knew before he even called her that something was going to receive found out by the way her mom was describing her daughter. I never went on spring break til I was in college, but I know what happened then and I'm sure it's not much different for high schoolers. I agree Leah and whose to say she won't be doing the exact same thing even if she does stay here and attends community college. Her mom cannot shelter her it just makes it that much worse. lol Ashley...no it wasn't Lex and Terry, but it does sound like something they would do. :) Sunshine, I also hear to MJ, adore him...I agree with him on so much stuff it's not even silly. :) There is another local radio station here that I was listening to for a while which is where I heard this call, but one of the co-hosts gets more and more flaky everyday and she and the main guy never agree on anything and it's getting a little old. She has got to go.

8 Jul 2010, 9:56 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Why are people making a big deal about Mrs. Obama's vacation?

With the national debt Pres Bush got us in to, why would people be so uptight about Mrs. Obama taking this trip to Spain. The money spent on the trip is hardly a speck compared to our country's debt. Sure it costed money and is bad publicity for Obama but I mean honestly, will it make that much of a difference when it comes down to it? In other words, are you personally affected by her trip? No, it makes no difference. I know how many extreme conservatives lurk on Y!A so please try not to flame too difficult <.<

6 Aug 2010, 1:58 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: My period hasn't started?

And no, I'm not pregnant, I barely even talk to guys because they make me so nervous. I've had my period for about four years now, so I doubt it could be irregular. My period actually came on time about two or three weeks ago, but it only lasted one day, and hasn't arrive back since somewhere around my summer vacation. (Which I'm still enjoying.) I've been eating well, and no extreme exercising. (If any...) And I don't think I'm stressed, I've been pretty glad lately, playing video games. And, I haven't taken any birth-control pills since last year, and the only medication I've taken is for my high blood pressure, Atenolol. Should I go look my doctor or wait another week or so? Could this be deadly if I don't ask my doctor?

5 Aug 2010, 3:02 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Is it normal for a newly widowed to date again?

I need some advice on what I should do since I am a 27 year old trans-lady that has been widowed for over a month. I unexpectedly went out on a date with a lady turning 30 this month. I am really attracted to her and I have had strong romantic feelings so deep. It is also the first time I've dated as a lady since transitioning from a man to a lady. I told her that I liked her and she was so attractive and kissable. I don't believe the lady I am seeing identifies a lesbian, which is something I believe she won't mind if she and I do indeed receive into a serious relationship. The problem is: she has been a widow or single for way too long in my book and the fact I am so in adore with her... since she does not have a boyfriend and it seems like no matter what I do to convince, she does not want a relationship (in addition, years before I began transitioning, throughout my middle school and high school years it has been a problem to the point where I got accused of sexual harassment, stalking, or even worse--just weeks after someone I went to school with was murdered by her estranged boyfriend, my fears became well-realized as I do have a trouble pursuing a relationship plus why I hate the anniversary to the day of my high school senior prom). If it makes anyone feel better I may have to declare "an interim relationship" for the time being. Just two days after my wife of nine years passed away, I unexpectedly went out on a date at a local bar in my town. After the date I blew the lady a kiss to let her know I am very interested in developing a relationship and she says she might not be 100% ready for a relationship. She did tell me about her future plans including a potential move to Florida and I recommended she keep up for a vacation home in that state since she told me she is from Florida and went to school there. Just a few weeks after the first date, I heard from other sources she was caught drinking and was hospitalized at a mental health institution. I did give her a "Thinking about you" card since I figured her birthday was coming up, even delivered the card to her in person. She did say "That's very thoughtful of you and very sweet of you." Is it just me or is it just the fact I frequently lose my patience (and have been doing that since my high school senior prom when my prom date showed up hours tardy)? I just don't like going to extremes when it comes to that. I have been in therapy (for every issues involved) since I am already transitioning.

4 Jul 2010, 9:55 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: How to show my girlfriend i love her when she comes back from a vacation?

Ok so my girl is coming back from vacation and she said to surprise her and plan something that proves that i like her. So I don't know what to do but i want it to be very special, cost isn't in the way, but nothing extreme. Anyone has any GOOD ideas on what to do? THX ALOT IN ADVANCE!

31 Jul 2010, 10:44 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: We are in record debt. The Oval Office looked fine. WHY is Barack Hussein spending our money to redecorate?

http://blogs.abcnews.com/politicalpunch/2010/08/oval-office-extreme-makeover-.html On the President’s first day back in the office from vacation, facing a deteriorating economic horizon, one Internet site is claiming he has returned to a newly redecorated Oval Office, complete with new carpets and drapes. A White home spokesman tells ABC News the administration will have no immediate comment on the Drudge Report that “workers have been busy installing new carpets, drapes, painting, etc. in Oval Office.” But mediamatters.org, a progressive media watchdog site, has pounced, defending the Obama administration.

31 Aug 2010, 9:17 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: I have dog allergies, please help.?

When i was little my sister brought home a puppy, 2 years later I developed odd symptoms: -Extreme Nausea -Diarrhea -Weight loss (I was just bones, no meat) -Weak Immune system -Loss of appetite I became very sick and the doctors said that they didn't know what was this and said i was going to die. Then my parents gyved the dog away, 6 months later i began to feel better. In 2006 I went to germany for a vacation and my uncle had my dog's brother, and he had puppy's :3 and I took one of the puppy's without knowing my past. In 2008 my symptoms got back and then my parents told me what happened when i was a kid. Now i have the symptoms again and the doctors still don't know what this is. Is there a way to keep the dog or do I have to give her away? Sorry if there are some errors here :(

30 Jul 2010, 12:15 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: Rate my essay please?

It's about an enchanting experience I had during summer vacation: This summer, my family and I spent a week of July in the quaint sea side town of Ningaloo, located in the western extremes of Australia. One day, a scuba diving session was scheduled for our family. Looking at the calm, cerulean blue surface one wouldn’t expect to look something stupendous underneath it but every my incredulity vanished as the flurry of bubbles which shrouded my vision as a result of diving into the water cleared and revealed to me a colourful underwater metropolis of coral. I tried to exclaim “wow” but what came instead were a few bubbles through my diving mask as I saw the eerie brain coral, the peculiar table coral and the rainbow of colours which painted these underwater marvels making them look astonishingly beautiful. The striped clownfish, the colour changing cuttlefish, the Yellow Tangs and the little damsel fish increased the beauty tenfold. every of a sudden, a huge figure loomed up from behind the reef from which I was plucking samples. It was at least 12 metres long and had a black body which was striped and spotted with pale blue. I immediately recognised it as a whale shark and didn’t panic as whale sharks are known to be very docile creatures. The titan serenely floated over to me and gave me a playful nudge. I realised it was a friendly creature so I grabbed onto a fin gently and to my surprise the creature began to swim, pulling me along for a ride. I mounted onto its back, holding onto its fin for support. It was like riding a horse except much more exciting. The shark began to move up and down, twisted its body and swam in loop de loops with such speed it was like an underwater roller coaster! Before I knew it the shark began to swim towards the surface and it actually leaped into the air like a dolphin. It was truly an enchanting experience with the salty sea wind in my hair, a beautiful sunset and riding my new pal (whom I incidentally named _____)! look the "_____" well I can't think of a name for the whale shark. Any suggestions please? (But not Shamu...)

30 Aug 2010, 3:41 am | click here to view more

Open Question: What does this "break" mean?

Long story short I got involved with a guy on vacation who lives across the country. We continued to talk and even though we weren't officially "together" we were pretty much together. He's a year younger then me but communicates pretty well...or so I thought. I told him from the start that I have emotional problems (cutting, depression, suicidal thoughts). I had not clip for six months when I met him but I had been on an anti-depressant for a month. He said he could handle it and would help me. When I got home from the vacation I went into a tailspin ending with me being put into a mental hospital for adolescents because of extreme suicidal thoughts. He helped me through every of it except the hospital part. My psychiatrist believes that the new medicine I was on is what caused the mania/cutting to start again. It wasn't anyone's fault. I was in the hospital for a week and didn't talk to this guy the whole time but my pal had told him what happened. When I got out he ignored me until he finally told me he wanted to take a "break" because he didn't feel the same about us after I was hospitalized. He said he was confused. Before I went to the hospital he was talking about him not being good for my life...so I'm not sure if he thinks it was his fault I was in the hospital or what he's thinking. I am going to give him a week (since we hadn't talked in two weeks before the break anyway). What should I say when I contact him again? I don't want to push him away because I really care about him and I understand that he is confused. Can I just ask him if he is ready to talk? Is this really a "break" or is it the end? Edit: I am getting help. I have been in therapy for seven months and am now on new medication. I haven't clip in three weeks and I feel pretty glad.

3 Sep 2010, 9:07 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: What are some creative idea to make my girlfriend smile?

She's not depressed or anything, or at least I wish not, but it's been a while since I've text because my dad canceled my phone plan and there's no other way for me to contact her so she doesn't know that my plan was canceled. Summer vacation is almost over and I'll look her in school everyday, and I just want some ideas to bring a grin to her face. We're both 15 so nothing too extreme that I couldn't do. Thanks in advance

3 Aug 2010, 2:46 am | click here to view more

Voting Question: I think I have a heat rash, but I'm not sure?

Hi, I recently started vacation in an extremely hot area, much hotter than what I'm used to, and I have developed these blister-looking red spots every over the fronts of both my thighs. I have never developed this condition before, but I can only really think that this is because of the extreme heat (and there is no air conditioning either). However, I am a bit doubtful because this "heat rash" does not itch in the least. After researching symptoms of a heat rash, they every include itchy skin. The rash is not itchy, yet it is a bit painful and sensitive when put in contact with anything. So is this a heat rash or something else? Thanks!

29 Jul 2010, 6:26 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Anyone Ready to go back to School?

I'm sure not.. I took the summer off.. but i mostly worked my ass off.. With some extreme hours... and Now my semester starts every over again.. and it feels i didn't receive the vacation i plan :( ..God Willing i soon transfer to UCLA Tho :)...

29 Aug 2010, 5:32 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: i feel so humiliated and pathetic...where do i go from here?

im 23 and my ex bf is 24. we dated for 2 months. he was extremely controlling and always trying to read my emails/facebook msgs/text messages etc. when he wasnt busy trying to tell me that i needed to go tanning or dress more slutty and telling me that i was a "social retard" because i dont like to drink/smoke weed/take pills/ or party. he broke up with me and then a week later i offered to drop off his stuff via sending him an email. he wrote back and said "thats extreme why cant we meet and talk" so we did and he asked me back out.... i didnt understand why he was doing every this to me since he seemed to have treated his past gf's like princesses. one he dated for 4 yrs and the other for 2 yrs. he took them on vacations to disney world, bought them jewlery, lived with one of them and absolutely adored them. he didnt control them and as a matter of fact THEY had every of his passwords to his email/networking sites and were able to check them at their leisure. he told me last week that he loved me and wanted to be with me but didnt want to have a title...while he was actively on a dating website. i asked him to delete it and he said he would. i checked over the next 4 days and each day i checked his profile it said "ONLINE TODAY" i called him and broke it off with him for good and he said "you are losing a guy who truly loved you over your possess paranoia" he then went on to explain that he had attempted to delete the account from his iphone and had gotten texts in the middle of doing so and was unable to do it which explained the "ONLINE TODAY" after i broke it off with him he kept the dating website and didnt attempt to mend things. he hasnt spoken to me in a week and has added 14 women to his facebook off the dating site in addition to having one spend the night at his home (which i saw when i dropped off his things" i feel like a pathetic loser because i sent him a card and said :despite our differences id like to try and work out a friendship. i know he got the card today and he didnt text me or even instant message me when we were both online earlier.... i feel so embarassed

28 Jul 2010, 1:58 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Who would win these matches?(EWA's Mini Show)?

Welcome back to EWA's Mini Show, the only Wrestling Fantasy Show where anything CAN and WILL HAPPEN! Last time on the Show, the team of The Hart Dynasty won a triple threat tag match to become next in line for the EWE World Tag Team Titles after Night of Champions. The Pay-Per-View, N.O.C actually hasn't been posted yet due to an Internet problem and I was on vacation from 7/25-7/28. I'm back now and do plan on posting the PPV this week for viewing! :D As for tonight we've gotta packed card as the #1 Contenders, The Hart Dynasty are in action in the main event. Also, The Hurricane and Rosie and the Motor City Machine Guns have been at each other since losing their shot at the World Tag Belts and as a result they have gotta 2-on-2 tag match right now! Match#1: Tag Team Match! The Hurricane/Rosie vs. Chris Sabin/Alex Shelley *On last week's EWE, FCW Talent Richie Steamboat and Tito Colon did battle against the ECW Originals. The FCW guys didn't tug off a victory, but they did show that they are worthy of another chance. Which is why right now, they have that chance as they will have individual 1-on-1 matches against the ECW Originals that beat them last week: Tito Colon vs. The Sandman in Extreme Rules & Richie Steamboat vs. Sabu in a Tables Match!* Match#2: Xtreme Rulez match! Tito Colon vs. The Sandman Match#3: TABLES match! Richie Steamboat vs. Sabu *PROMO*: EWE Interviewer, Kelly Kelly backstage to interview The Hart Dynasty! KELLY KELLY: "Hart Dynasty, u guys now have a shot at the EWE World Tag Team Championships against the winner of Kane/Big Show(c) vs. MVP/Mark Henry @N.O.C. How do u feel about either of the teams who will be ur possible Champs going into the next PPV?" DH Smith: "To be honest, we proved last week that we are Title worthy. We beat Rosie and The Hurricane, we beat Alex Shelley and Chris Sabin. This was a Triple Threat and our Tag Title match is gonna be 1-on-1. Do we think we can beat MVP and Mark Henry? Yeah, do we think we can beat Kane and The Big Show? Yeah, and to prove it. We challenge MVP and Mark Henry to a match next week on EWE regardless of the how of Night Of Champions turns out." TYSON KIDD: "You're lookin at the next EWE World Tag Team Champions!" *As The Hart's walk away to the ring for a tag team match in ur EWA Mini Main Event!* Main Event: Tag Team Match! *FALLS COUNT ANYWHERE* The Hart Dynasty vs. Cody Rhodes/Zack Ryder Give this edition of EWA's Mini Show a RATING, answer the WQ Below, and plz *STAR* for B.A.! :D WQ: Chris Jericho is rumored to be finished with the WWE this fall? How many great Wrestlers is that the WWE has lost after Y2J?

28 Jul 2010, 1:10 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: I feel so humiliated and pathetic...where do i go from here?

28 Jul 2010, 11:51 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: My Husband And His Hottie Squirting Mistress?

HE'S ABSOLUTELY OBSESSED WITH SQUIRTING he secretly posted a craigslist for a lady to join him in webcam masturbation but she had to be a squirter he met this beautiful 27yr old latina who squirts when she orgasms he's fixated with he stopped watching porn(his excuse ive seen every of the limited selection of squirting) and just watches her and she watches him masturbate he sends her gifts like a sugar daddy nothing extreme but it still is down right insulting ive told him he said at least i'm not out there fu*king her and he barely wants to have sex with me because i can't squirt i've tried every the g-spot stimulation tricks toys fingering kegel exercises as upset as i am with that what really pissed me off is we went on vacation last weekend great time great sex everything but our last night he pulls out his laptop puts it close the bed with the webcam on i didnt know at the time it was completely off to the side in the dark and it has night vision and let her watch us while he watched her i only caught on because her microphone was still left on WHAT SHOULD I DO? squirting is not peeing its from the skenes gland so every you retarded FU*KS MOVE ON THIS IS SERIOUS I MAY LOSE MY MARRIAGE ...no this a new found obsession of his.... and his parents they can do anything for him one is sick and the other is a deadbeat

27 Jun 2010, 5:32 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: I have a fear of high extreme rollercoasters what should I do?

Ok so i'm suppose to be going to wildwood in new jersey with my family this weekend.But I have always had a fear of heights including high rollercoasters with big drops and twists.Also if I receive on one I don't think I could handle it.I do want to go just to receive out the home and not spend my last summer vacation sitting in the home.Then again I don't want to go and be a pussy,by not getting on and wasting everybody elses time or my family pressuring me to receive on when I don't want to.My name is James and i'm 21 years old by the way also I don't want to receive on no kiddie rides because I would feel silly as an adult riding them.I don't know what to do.What should I do? cause I didn't have other plans and I have to let my job know by tomorrow.

27 Aug 2010, 6:21 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: Please help me with my vacation!?

heyy(: im leaving for cancun mexico in 5 days "EXTREME glad Face!* but i dont know about their money! please tell me the amount in usa dollars and then in peso's and whatever else they have:) thanks! ~kbcrox

27 Aug 2010, 1:13 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Do cons and libertarians worry about the lack of examples of successful countries with their policies?

Liberals can always point to the big number of countries that have higher taxes and more government spending than the US, and say "look, these countries receive more vacations, work less hours, have universal healthcare (which is more efficient than ours), have better educated students than us (despite having public education), and they have GDP growth rates that are similar to ours." Canada, Sweden, Germany, France, Norway, Denmark, etc. the list goes on and on. Sure they don't have as many billionaires but they have less extreme poverty too and lower inequality. What do conservatives and libertarians have as examples? What do you use? Certainly there are some developing countries that have grown faster after liberalizing, but they are every much poorer than Western Europe or Canada and are likely to remain so for a very long time. I doubt many conservatives would point to China or India or Indonesia or Chile as their model economy to emulate. I suppose Hong Kong is a decent candidate, as Milton Friedman and others supported it, but it does have a lot of social welfare spending and while it has no income tax, the government pays for every these social programs by owning every the land in the country and leasing to private users. The government owning every land doesn't seem like something cons or libertarians would generally support. So is the booming, prosperous economy (with benefits for every, or most) that you believe would occur with deep cuts in spending and taxes just a utopian ideal? Or are there some actual examples you would use? [Can you do it without using US history? The biggest expansion of government and of the economy happend at the same time from post WWII to the 1950s-1970s (when the top marginal tax rate was very high), and Clinton who raised taxes oversaw the largest expansion in jobs and the stock market and economic growth since then.] I wasn't born in the US (Singapore actually). I asked for examples, don't tell me there are many examples. I agree that every communist economies failed - you need a private sector and incentives for innovation and to work difficult. But no American liberal ever says we should be more like the Soviet Union or Cuba. We usually agree that those are examples of excessive government intervention. Your standard American liberal wants to emulate Sweden, not Soviet Russia. Greece is a better example of a failed state with a big government, but citing it doesn't exactly answer my question. And Greece is still much better off than most third world countries that have low taxes and spending, despite their financial crisis. So I look lots of examples of so-called liberal economies failing (really communists, not social democracies with private property and a big private sector). And a claim that Clinton got lucky (fair enough, I sort of agree there). But no positive examples. Anyone?

25 Aug 2010, 5:16 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Am I settling or being too picky?

I know this question has been posed often, but please lend your opinions. I'm in a 5 year relationship and starting to have some serious doubts... I know after 5 years I should be able to make a decision on whether to move on or receive married, but I'm struggling on whether or not the work I have to put in to the relationship is worth it. First off, I'm a realist. I understand and believe that every successful relationships require work from both parties, and I'm very willing to do this. The person I have been with for 5 years, I adore dearly. However, there are some things about them that steer me insane. Can someone tell me if I am being too picky here? 1. The person has no career. They are 32 and have never worked outside of a restaurant. They often daydream of jobs that offer lots of money and traveling the world, but never act on any. 2. The person is always tardy. This isn't a huge deal, but here is how it usually goes down. We're supposed to be somewhere at 7. They don't work every day (I do) and when I receive home at 6:30, they haven't even started getting ready. Then they receive mad at me for rushing them. 3. Every time we argue, most often times over tiny misunderstandings (I'm admittedly anti-confrontational), they close themselves off from me and will not talk for hours. 4. Due to the misunderstandings...I feel like I'm on pins and needles around them a lot of the time 5. They have extreme jealousy issues, especially when they are not the middle of attention. 6. Cannot hold a steady job...most often fired for consistently being tardy. There are TONS of good qualities too...they are beautiful, super loyal, silly, caring, compassionate, have a desire to travel, knows how to have a good time, etc. So we go through phases. Most of the good times revolve around us vacationing (of which I have a sneaky suspicion is an escape from the real world for them) and the bad times are real life. I don't want to be miserable, but I need to know if this is worth fighting for and if the problems I have with this person are ones that every happily married couple has. Is this as good as it gets?

23 Aug 2010, 4:19 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Why does Obama take so much vacation?

I heard Obama say he has taken less vacation than Bush by some extreme meaasure but Obama fails to mention that was after the pentagon had been bombed and the secret service wanted to always keep the president moving. Bush also would would go to his home. I am an independent who thinks Obama is a perverse liar...he annoyed with me with his ram through of health care, his refusal to help arizona, his bringing in of the mexican president who dissed Arizong but has the same law arizona has....and the WTF comment of every time "NASA needs to something something something muslims great contribution to science...what a lie, the last contribution to science muslims offered was more than a 1000 years ago..." Now when ever Obama opesn his mouth i'm expecting a lie. Healthcare for example will not solved the debt it will massively increase it. I am at the end of my obama rope. Ingrid, Obama would have you at the end of his.

22 Aug 2010, 9:28 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: What should I do about underwater home - mortgages?

I live in SW Florida where I owe $335,000 for a home surrounded by homes forecloure specialists are enjoying profits from selling at $125,000 (in much better condition than mine), and at least another thousand brand new unoccupied homes nearby. Flood insurance just became mandatory and rates went up. I bought in '06, it was the best I could receive then, but in very needy shape compared to the quality of currently available homes. It would take another $20,000 just to make it marketable to sell for $125,000. In '06 I had to have two loans on teacher pay, did not have enough reserves for a down payment, assumed value would continue escalating and would refinance/consolidate both loans, with increased equity in a few years, and live here another ten years, retire and go home and live in Texas in a modest, low cost home, for the relax of my life. Disaster struck. I modified loan 1 (SAXON) below HAMP - that one payment is 31% of my gross income - one of my 2 "take home" paychecks a month. I modified Loan 2 ($65,000 balance) directly with OCWEN, who only gave me a reduced rate (14% TO 2%) for 5 years. My entire 2nd paycheck is that payment, utilities, food, clothes, car, gas, credit cards, student loans, and other living expenses. I live hand to mouth and look now that I will never be able to retire/sell this home/move home, etc. I didn't want to receive wealthy, but I didn't expect to pay every dime I make for the relax of my life for basic living because of what I perceive as a national financial disaster - obviously not just a "natural real estate cycle" - evolving from needy economic planning and oversight on the part of the politicians who have been paid by my taxes from my difficult work for the last 35 years to assure my (at least basic) quality of life - for life. Ethics? It is difficult to specify ethical boundaries below such extreme, outlying conditions. I do know one thing about this crisis: Ethcial boundaries were crossed at every stage, by many people, over many years. The argument for the end consumer to suffer - in such an exaggerated way - in order to affirm their ethics - seems profoundly hypocritical. On the other hand, I am still here, paying my mortgage, even though every other homeowner who purchased a home in this HOA between '05 and '08 has walked away, so I AM demonstrating ethics. My question is, "What would you do?" I wish I could put up a poll and ask every expert what they would do. Walk away entirely? What then... ? Rent for life...? cease paying 2nd lien? What then...? Credit ruined...for how long...? What else....? Swallow and pay every dime they earn to live a restricted (since '06: never go out, no travel, no vacations, no gift giving at holidays, steer old cars, buy used clothes, etc.) life for the next ten or fifteen years, fearing job loss or pay clip daily, only to find out at retirement that I have to walk away from it then, can't sell it, perhaps have to file bankruptcy, then, and live in government housing for my retirement...? That seems awfully bleak. I make too much, they say, to file bankruptcy. hmmm...what would you do? Thanks for any wisdom you could share. Synthia

22 Aug 2010, 2:01 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: laptop suffers from extreme slowdown?

I like to use my laptop pretty often during the summer so that I can contact a bunch of my friends and play a few games with them while they're on vacation with their families. Unluckily for me when I turned my laptop on, it recently suffers from extreme slowdown. I can log in to my possess account just fine, but after that every the programs take forever to open up. I've tried a system restore but yielded no results. The laptop is a toshiba C650. 4gig RAM Intel HD Core Sorry, I'd give a little more info but the diagnostics takes too long to open up. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

21 Aug 2010, 1:32 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: DESPERATE For Losing 10 lbs In A Week or So... HELP!?

Yes, I am VERY desperate. I need to lose it in about a week and a half, right before I go on vacation. I don't want to go on vacation, wear a bikini, and feel like a fat-ass. I go back to school in September, and I NEED to be slimmer by then... I'm 12 years old and my height is 5'1 and a half. I'm 109 lbs or so... I will go to extremes if I have to, and I'm dead serious. I have to have an at-home plan... Without running. i need a smiple step-by-step plan to use. I have most of the absic foods you'd find in someone's home... And I also have the Special K bars, which I adore and I would, if I needed to, clip my calories down to 3 of those a day without anything else. I really really need to lose this! Please please please please help me!!!!

20 Aug 2010, 9:07 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: What has 0bama REALLY done as president?

Besides, 1. Putting the US 3 trillion $$ more into debt while unemployment still rises 2. Shoved a health care bill at Americans that the majority does not want, in that version at least 3. Renewed the Patriot Act 4. Bowed and showed extreme subservience to other world leaders 5. Sued Arizona so he can keep more illegal aliens in 6. Caused racial tensions to rise 7. Appoint known radicals and communists to his cabinet 8. Golfed and vacationed constantly

20 Aug 2010, 8:09 pm | click here to view more

Open Question: My Teenage Daughter Seems to be a Slow Learner. Any Ideas?

Full disclosure, my wife and I don't really think our teen daughter is a ditz. But read on. We are very concerned about our teen daughter "Karen". Karen is 16 and when she was younger, we had to have her in special education courses. Even in high school, she seems a little slow at times. Karen doesn't really hate high school, but she's not excelling in it either. We've had to give her that "little extra attention" and watch over her a little more closely. Fortunately her brother "Joe" is 21 and he's been very understanding. He gets that she needs extra attention. Except for a few scrapes here and there, Karen and Joe receive along very well. Karen seems to idolize Joe a little. In fact, they're planning a trip together to England when she's 18. She works part time at the grocery store so she is putting money away for it and if I know Joe, he'll look to it that she sticks with it. Karen seems to be extremely forgetful and she has a short attention span. She starts things she never finishes. I know every about Attention Deficit Disorder but we're very reluctant to put her on any meds for it. My wife and I don't believe in medicating a child except in extreme cases. There are times when Karen seems to be off in her possess little world. She seems to have little motivation in life right now and few goals. We've tried and tried and tried to receive her motivated. We know she isn't autistic. We had her tested for autism a few years ago and her doctor said that she is definitely not autistic. Just so she didn't think she was being singled out, Joe went along with it and we pretended to have him take a "personality" test too. Besides, Karen has good social skills and she does have a good circle of friends. At family receive togethers, she is capable of carrying on a conversation. But here's the silly part. Karen is interested in music. In fact her knowledge of pop/rock is very good. When she announced a couple of years ago she wanted to take guitar lessons, we were very hesitant about buying her a guitar because we "knew" it would end up in the closet. But she's set her mind to it and two years later, she's keeping with her lessons and she practices religiously every day. She even takes her guitar with her on family vacations. She is getting very good. The other thing Karen loves is literature. She's an avid reader and she loves authors like Charles Dickens, John Steinbeck, Mark Twain, etc. The one class she excels in is her literature classes. In fact she's in the advanced literature class. But if it wasn't for that class, her GPA would be every Cs and Ds. We've tried and tried and tried to receive her good study habits, but to no avail. We fear that unless Karen either persues a career in music or is able to turn things around, she won't do very well as an adult. She's not stupid and the things she is interested in, she's very bright. We do keep a watch on her and we've never seen her drunk, high, etc. She's a good kid and we're trying to reassure her of that. Karen knows she's not doing well in school, although she's never out and out failed a class, and it affects her self-esteem. And we want her to continue to do the things she does well in. Do/did you have a teen like Karen? Were you ever a kid like her? Any ideas.

2 Sep 2010, 11:51 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Best friend has extreme low self esteem...?

I'm 13 and my best pal (also 13) has REALLY low self esteem. She always complains about how her hair looks bad and how she's fat. (which she DEFINITELY is not) She has eczema and she's in Israel right now, and her eczema has really been acting up. I can tell her body reacts to change in air, because her eczema hasn't been this bad since she moved here 2 years ago. Now she went on vacation to Israel/Africa and her eczema got REALLY bad. She is barely ever glad when I talk to her over text message/IM. She always seems to be complaining. I am her "therapist" and I can usually receive her to say "I guess you're right" and help her out a bit. But since she's been in Israel, I can't help her. She's been dating her boyfriend for almost 9 months, and she STILL misses him 24/7. It's gotten better (she used to say she missed him WHEN WE WERE IN THE SAME BUILDING AS HIM) but now she just misses him when we're in a different building -__- every the time. even when she's on the vacation anyone would kill to have. Her parents aren't fighting or divorced and she doesn't have family problems (besides her 6 year old sister fighting with her) but she always says her parents hate her. Once I just got sick of it and told her that her parents don't hate her, and they never will no matter what. I don't know what to do anymore! She has such low self esteem it's not even silly! PLEASE HELP!!!!!!! Thanks.

2 Aug 2010, 9:58 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: how to erase acne as much as possible in 2 days?

Basically most of it is those stupid little bumps that are the same color tone as skin but just hideous and annoying and the relax just slightly more extreme and barley pink. Im vacationing in 2 days and have recently purchased pro-activ that hasnt done such a hot job yet and want to rid as much as possible asap i need something that i can either go grab quick and cheap from target or home remedy or something, cant order anything

2 Aug 2010, 7:30 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: I have a question about Child support and the specific guidelines concerning when it is acceptable NOT to pay.?

My daughter is 13yrs. old. Her dad has been paying only $60.00 a month her entire life. He has never shown the courts his pay stubs and he was to have his employer deduct the child support from his check, and send it to the 'Disbursement middle' down State (Illinois) Which he has never done. He claims it isn't any of his bosses business about child support.. Anyway, during Summer vacation, our daughter went to stay with her aunt (his sister) for two weeks. During that time he paid me nothing. The following week after she returned, he left me the usual $60.00. I was livid. He claimed he didn't have to pay me for the two weeks prior because she wasn't even with me. I am sleepy of (some) men thinking that the money they pay is/has to be used on the child specifically. They don't realize that it is reimbursement for money spent on the child during that week/month. I have custody of her, every year. I supply a home, food, heat/air, t.v / cable, internet, clothes, personal products and the list goes on. My electric bill was $250.00 this month due to the extreme hot weather. I am not able to pay this bill now because I have lost a big chunk of income for the month. every he says, is that he is broke and shouldn't have to pay for those two weeks. He just bought a new home and has been spending money to fix it up. That's every fine and dandy..but what about HIS daughter? Tell me what I can do?

19 Aug 2010, 8:11 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Aren't Sex Offenders laws extreme and overkill? I watched Pinn & Tellers show on it.?

Look I agree we should lock down and lock up Rapist and child molesters and register them, but the majority of sex offenders are for lower level misdemeanor crimes. Like pissing outside or a 18 year old male having sex with a 16 or 17 year old girlfriend. Many of the laws are vague and general in nature to give law enforcement leverage to prosecute. On the Pinn & Teller show a 10 year old boy received a text and photo of a 11 year old girl's *%# !! The DA actually was going to prosecute the boy for unwittingly opening the message. Which would make him a registered sex offender for the relax of his life! Convictions are crazy! Even if innocent the burden of proof is on the defense in any charges of sexual impropriety regardless of the law. A public defender told me this while I was cutting her hair just how easy it is for the DA's office can receive a conviction on these type of cases (whether innocent or not). This is scary stuff!! I feel maybe it is because we live in the information age that people are after hearing one(or a few) horrible stories about sex offenders that they are every of them out to receive little johnny or sally. If a guy goes through jail, probation, mandated therapy, and registration every year. I would imagine 99.9% of the time the idea of re-offending is reprehensible. There are over 900,000 registered sex offenders out among us. If just 1% re-offended that would be 9000 a year. Our news media would have nothing else to do if so many re-offended. Oh, what constitutes a re-offense? Not registering on time or while on vacation? Note: most Sex offenses arrive from non-offenders not prior sex offenders. So, shouldn't we be more concerned about those we know that have no history at every (family and friends)? What's your view? I'm impressed with the response to the questions. This renders some wish for us every that many do look the BS going on in society with these laws.

17 Jul 2010, 11:49 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: Had a near death experience.Was I in hell?

I was on summer vacation and I nearly drowned.I was dead for a couple of seconds.At least that's what they told me. The only thing I remember is this weird place.It was completely dark and it felt like I was dreaming.I was completely concious.The only feeling I felt was extreme loneliness.I was thinking about how is this a dream,am I in hell,what happened etc. and then the darkness stopped and there was nothing.Next I remember waking up in a hospital. I'm an atheist by choice but this really made me take some interest. It was a odd experience every together. As far as I know when you die serotonin and endorphin is released into your brain,but I didn't feel any of that.Only thing I felt was loneliness. I was asking for an opinion.I wasn't asking for scientific proof.

17 Aug 2010, 9:55 am | click here to view more

Voting Question: I was about to break up with him last night..but idk if my reasoning was childish?.we love each other 2 much 2?

Me and my bf are 18. Okay, So my last night was me and my bf's 3rd month annivarsary. We were up every night talking on the phone..nothing new lol. We are both currently long distance. Only been for about a month and a half. We wont be long distance for long. I just summer vacationed away from him with my family. But, I leave back for school in another month. So i will look him again then. Yesterday he was over some of his guyfriend's home and they were having guy talk and he told me about how they were telling him stories of how their girlfriends every did them wrong and how my bf is gonna soon find out that he cant trust girls...and while he was telling me these things i could sense he was unhappy and worried. So i assured him that he could trust me. He knows he can but what his friends were saying naturally had got to him just a little bit. my boyfriend is a really extremely sweet generous guy. He treats me like a queen especially since i'm the only lady in his life. His mom died when he was ten so he moved to live with his grandma whom treats him bad.He has a half sister but they do not live in the same state and they are not close. But, my bf is very respectful! He never touches me inappropriately or make me do things that i am not comfortable with. We are both virgins and he never once attempted to have sex with me. Even when its just him and I at his home tardy at night with no supervision. He doesnt ever cross the line. And i really cherish that about him. Considering other guys i have dated and how they werent that self disciplined. But, after we hit our 2month relationship mark he started to sarcastically make sexual remarks every now and then. He does it in as playful way though and never REALLY is extreme..but it still is something i notice. ..I know he is a guy and he has desires but we already discussed how we will wait for each other. Which is something I adore about him. There is no pressure. THE PROBLEM Anyway, we have this everynight ritual where before one of us receive sleepy (its always me and never him) He is always unhappy when i say i want to go to bed and he admits that he never wants to receive off the phone with me and sometimes he's like 30more mins k babe? or 10more mins please babe? and then i'd be like okay and after 30 or 10 more mins we both would say our "I adore yous" and "Goodnight sweeties" e.t.c. and receive off the phone. There were exactly two times where he just flat out said bye and hung up and i became pissed off because when he does that he is intentionally trying to piss me off. He does that because he's mad that I'm getting off the phone and he doesnt want to. He knows that, that is not the way we do things. So, knowing that im mad he would call right back in hopes of me answering so that he can appologize. But the first time he did this i answered and was like "its okay, just dont do it again". The second time he did I didnt answer his calls For a whole DAY!. He kept calling and he left atleast 6 messages that night every in a 1hour time span apologizing and crying saying he's stupid and that he loves and misses me so much and that he really wanted me to answer the phone. I eventually did and he was sooo hurt. He sounded so depressed and he kept saying sorry and that he doesnt want to lose me. I accepted his apology and he was like it wouldnt happen again....well it did. Last night on our 3rd month annivarsary. He didnt want to receive off the phone but i was sleepy and when i told him that i wanted to go to bed he said really quick " w/e adore you bye" and hung up! I was pissed and when he tried to call back I ignored his calls and he left like 5messages. I eventually answered (because I just hate to hurt him : ( bad habit of mine i know) but he appologized and we both said goodnight.. MY QUESTION should this make me want to end our relationship? Should we take a break? Am i over reacting? How can i make him regret that he did this? We adore each other so much but how can i put him in his place? I appreciate everyone for reading this, I know its long and you guys are every angels for helping me understand and or resolve this problem.Thanks so much!

17 Aug 2010, 11:30 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Moral Issue [Re-asked.]?

I asked this question this morning, and I got a bunch of answers that didn't really help. --------------------------- So, there's this chick I know, she's 14 now, and recently she's gotten into talking to people online via chat rooms, she's really, really smart and mature about everything, and.. like, she's always on chat lately, It's really odd how confident she is on it, but meh, whatever makes her glad, right? Anyway, there's a guy she's met, to me he seems like the playboy of chat? I'm not sure if this is something he should be proud of or something, he's got a cam, and apparently has asked a few friends to arrive stay with him, who were his old 'pets' or something sexual like that. Well, Haley [The girl I mentioned earlier.] Has this really big thing about wanting to go visit her. Truth is, Haley had gone through a lot as a little girl, her childhood was brutal, and she knows the dangers that wait for her around this particular corner. -She never opens up to anyone, and this is the exact opposite extreme for her. -Her mom and dad don't care, they'd act like it was a vacation and happily give her cash to fly a few hundred miles. [He's like on the total opposite side of the world.] -He's definitely over 20, or at least out of school, has a job. I wouldn't be surprised if he was like 28 or something. -She is definitely going to have sex if she goes. -Those 'pets' stay at his home [if not visit regularly] What am I going to say? She's absolutely sure of everything, would I be a good pal if I went with her? or stopped her every together. Should've mentioned this earlier; -I'm 17, I can definitely handle my possess, and protect Haley. It may sound overconfident but I'm fine. -As far as me and her know, she's the only underage person that... uh, wants to do this thing. -Problems? Well, she's really anti social. But.. I mean seriously, if I didn't trust her this much, I would 'cuff her to her seat straight away, that's the big problem I'm having.. --------------------------- The actual question is what can I do to make her not go? I can't tell anybody, it's... important that I don't tell anyone. And yes, she makes it more important than her safety, it's complicated. I can't force her not to go,she's a human being that can make her possess choices, she's not like a family member, and I have no control over her authority figures. Question Closed, If you have anything else to add, I'm every ears.

16 Aug 2010, 12:04 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Boyfriend lives with female roommate and I couldn't be more uncomfortable, help me with some clarity?

My 24 year old boyfriend of 4 years recently moved in with his pal Bobby and his sister Jennifer. Bobby is out of town till the end of the month, so it's just my boyfriend and Jennifer living there. I am so uneasy with him living there. A year ago my boyfriend cheated on me, hid that he was cheating until I found intimate text messages. We broke up and got back together 4 months later. So you can look why I am so threatened with him living there. When my boyfriend was a freshman in high school he made out with Jennifer at a party. Apparently it was nothing, but now he is trying to start this close relationship with her. He is overly friendly with her. Like on Sunday, when I was at work he took Jennifer out to lunch and paid for her. I was really upset about that. Then I arrive to his home and he is in only a towel talking to her. They barely even acknowledged me walking in there. At that point I had it and just couldn't handle this extreme jealousy I felt. I told him I couldn't be with him anymore and that him living with a girl is just too much for me. He flipped out. Started yelling at me like a 13 year old and wouldn't cease. He told me I am fake and crazy. He kept telling me that he isn't gonna "f**k" Jennifer and that he hasn't "cheated on me YET".. That's great.. He gets so mad now, he bullies me into staying with him. I feel so guilty by the things he says, like I am his his best pal the closest thing to him, he loves me, I am his soul mate, etc. He begs me to stay. But at the same time treats me like crap. He even started raising his fist to me. I don't think he would ever hit me, but that was something he has never done before. The weird thing is that he never offers for me to move in there, I even told him I would feel better if I lived there, but he doesn't want that. He wants his "possess space". I really want to end this relationship, but it's difficult when you still adore the person and your only pal lives 50 miles away and on vacation right now until Saturday. I am at a point where I don't know if I should stay or go. I know if I broke up with him and got back together a month later he would be the boyfriend I need. That's why it's so difficult to stay broken up (we have broken up numerous times). Help me! What is your advice? I have made a lot of other postings on this same issue if you want to read. Thanks :)

15 Jul 2010, 12:57 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Really bad moral issue..?

So, there's this chick I know, she's 14 now, and recently she's gotten into talking to people online via chat rooms, she's really, really smart and mature about everything, and.. like, she's always on chat lately, It's really odd how confident she is on it, but meh, whatever makes her glad, right? Anyway, there's a guy she's met, to me he seems like the playboy of chat? I'm not sure if this is something he should be proud of or something, he's got a cam, and apparently has asked a few friends to arrive stay with him, who were his old 'pets' or something sexual like that. Well, Haley [The girl I mentioned earlier.] Has this really big thing about wanting to go visit her. Truth is, Haley had gone through a lot as a little girl, her childhood was brutal, and she knows the dangers that wait for her around this particular corner. -She never opens up to anyone, and this is the exact opposite extreme for her. -Her mom and dad don't care, they'd act like it was a vacation and happily give her cash to fly a few hundred miles. [He's like on the total opposite side of the world.] -He's definitely over 20, or at least out of school, has a job. I wouldn't be surprised if he was like 28 or something. -She is definitely going to have sex if she goes. -Those 'pets' stay at his home [if not visit regularly] What am I going to say? She's absolutely sure of everything, would I be a good pal if I went with her? or stopped her every together. Should've mentioned this earlier; -I'm 17, I can definitely handle my possess, and protect Haley. It may sound overconfident but I'm fine. -As far as me and her know, she's the only underage person that... uh, wants to do this thing. -Problems? Well, she's really anti social. But.. I mean seriously, if I didn't trust her this much, I would 'cuff her to her seat straight away, that's the big problem I'm having..

15 Aug 2010, 1:51 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: Im starting to wonder if my "period" was a false alarm? What do u think?

So earlier today i went to the bathroom and noticed i have brownish redish stain in my underwear and bloody red color on my butt. Im 12 and never had a period, unless this was. It was around maybe 3pm. Its now 10pm and i havent had any other blood coming out onto the pad im wearing. I do have little cramps, and extreme leg pains. I was feeling a little sick a while ago. Im worried a bit, and upset it pick to arrive NOW, since my vacation is friday and we are going to swim, since i just turned 12, im nervous, and i dont think im ready for a tampon -- now im not swimming! So is this a period even though its been like 7 or 8 hours and i havent had anymore blood?

14 Jul 2010, 9:53 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Can a visitor buy a firearm in Arkansas?

Our family is going down to Arkansas for a two-month vacation, and being from Canada, we are wondering if you can lawfully acquire a firearm in Arkansas. One adult has a full citizenship (but not residence), and two minors have dual citizenship's'. None of us have reside or have any residence in any state. If you're wonder WHY we'd like to buy firearms down there, it is because we are currently working on trying to acquire firearms here in Canada and would like to "taste" the action in Arkansas. That wording might sound extreme, but hopefully if you have the right information you will know what I mean. (We'll find a place to shoot, like I said, one of us has lived in the US so we know it isn't as bad as the relax of the world seems to think) And yes, we have family that will take the firearms when we're finished.

14 Aug 2010, 8:50 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: Help! How do I stop this anxiety from taking over my life?

In the past two years, my life has changed dramatically. It every started with my stomach becoming more sensitive and causing frequent visits to the facilities. The more and more I noticed this, the more it became a disruption to my daily life. I was convinced I had IBD or IBS. I started developing anxiety over my need to go number two about 6 or 7 times a day. I started going out less and driving myself to meet my friends or for work meetings. I felt that if I wasn't in control, I'd have a terrible situation. I was a traveler and ready to explore the world and take on new adventures. Prior to my stomach sensitives, I'd go on road trips and flights with no problems at every. In fact, I loved flying and even loved turbulence. However, during my last vacation, I became so sick that I wasn't able to participant in every the activities I wanted to do. When it came time to go home, I freaked out. I had extreme nausea, my hands were trembling, I was sweating and I felt as if my insides were eating themselves. I didn't know how I was going to spend 12hrs on a plane feeling this sick. I took many different medications and I couldn't calm down. During takeoff, I thought I was going to kill myself because I felt like I was already in the process of dieing. On the second plane, I sat with the barf bag to my face while the delayed plane sat on the runway. I was ready to break the window and jump out because I was feeling so sick that I could no longer wait for the plane to receive in the air, not to mention be in the air again and trapped with these feelings. Ever since the vacation, I feel this anxiety more often. I went to a gastroenterologist to make sure nothing was wrong with my system. He confirmed, I was perfect. So, I don't know if it was this change in my system that started these anxiety attacks, or if it was this anxiety attack that is causing more of these attacks. I find these attacks happening more frequently. I use to take the train every other week for 8 hours/weekend. Now, I have a minor anxiety attack prior to departure, which is preventing me from taking this trip. If I absolutely have to go on this trip, I'll take meds to make sure I'm about to pass out before the train leaves. Everytime I look I plane, I start to feel sick inside. I'm so depressed because I feel like I can never fly again and there is so much in the world to look. I'm even starting to have minor anxiety attacks when going to the grocery store...like, if I have to wait in line, I start to sweat and tremble. I feel like this anxiety is taking over my life and I don't know how to cease it from escalating. I miss how I use to be and the things I use to do. I'm only 24 and still have my whole life ahead of me, but feel like its not worth it if I'm going to feel this way forever. Help! How can I fix this?

14 Aug 2010, 12:41 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: I feel like I've run out of summer?

I was gone the first two weeks of my summer. I went to Egypt and Italy with a pal. Since I've been back it seems as if I've been "busy" almost everyday. Yet, I haven't finished driving school and I'm really stressed because there's a four month limit and I'm on my fourth month. My last class is Saturday, then I have five days to finish every of my in car before leaving for South Carolina for a week. I can't look my dad until Friday which I hate... I miss him and I don't receive to spend time with him during the school year because I always have so much school work! I receive back from vacation the 31 and then I only have until the 19th of August. So I'm really stressed because it may not be physically possible to finish driving school before I leave, meaning I'd either have to retake the class (which is not only an extreme waste of my time, but a waste of money). Meaning it'd take even longer to receive my license, which I need to receive to school. I have summer homework which I'll probably start tonight. I have limited time left to spend with my friends and family. Then it's off to Junior year, the worst year of high school. Especially at my school. I only have one elective, for one quarter. Meaning I'm basically f*cked the relax of the year homework-wise. I'm so stressed out. I really want to sob. I had such a great beginning of the summer but now it's spiraling down the toilet... I don't know what to do. I'm really stressed out. Do you have any tips for me? Any advice? Any help so I can calm down?

13 Jul 2010, 11:58 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: The condom slipped during withdrawal and took plan b. Chances of pregnancy?

My girlfriend and I had sex on the 4th of July. She is not on BC. I did ejaculate inside her, with the condom on. Im like 99% positive the condom slipped off during withdawal since the open end of the condom was "sticking" out of my girldriend. My "stuff" was definitely inside the condom but some did leak since i saw it on her leg. I believe that sperm die the second they hit oxygen. But anyways.. The next day around 5 P.M. which is abou 16 hours after the fact, she took Plan B One Step. 5 days later, she got her period, which was about a week early. During her normal periods, she gets extreme pain and feels like total crap. This time she just got cramps and did not feel totally sick like usual. I also will mention it was not just spotting either. It was a "normal flow" of a period. I know one of the side effects of Plan B is it can mess with a period, make it arrive early, and make it "not normal" during it. The day after her period, she went on vacation, drank a decent amount (pretty much her first time drinking), and came back in 5 days. At this point, it is July 21st. The next day, and from that day on, she started having stomach pains but never really extreme. She kinda just felt like crap. This did not make her not eat or anything like that. Certain things did not gross her out. Being who I am, I was paranoid that she is pregnant. Her on the other hand, is not worried too much. I guess that is a good thing. But on the 27th of July, i was so worked up that we got a pregnancy test. This was 23 days after we had sex. It came up negative. We then took a second test on the 1st of August right when she woke up when the level of hCG is the highest. This is also 28 days after sex. The test came up negative again. Lastly, we took another test August 9th, 36 days after sex and 30 days after the start of her last period. Again, negative. Now, its August 13th. We are not sure when her period will arrive since it was early last time and she took plan b which can mess with ur cycle. The stomach pains she was experiencing before have stopped for a week or two.. Now she is starting to feel "crampy" on and off. This is making me worry more. What does anyone think? Is she pregnant? I know there is the possibility, but is it a high one? Help...

13 Aug 2010, 9:37 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Help me with porn addiction?

I'm 14 years old,(girl) and I really need help with my porn addiction(ish). I watched it for a little while when I was 12, but then somehow I just stopped. Now I've found a free website, but I now masturbate too. The thing is, I don't think I'm into the porn as much as masturbating, but it's not extreme, I just like to feel that liberating feeling because I started to do this because I felt stressed from every the school(I receive every A's) and I would kinda procrastinate doing homework and just do this instead. My dad found out about the porn, (not about masterbate) and talked to me a little, but then avoided it after. I feel unhappy and affected by it, and I just want to receive rid of it. I also feel bad because I am a Christian, and I know it's not the right thing to do. I watch these things only when I feel bored. Like when I'm on vacation or doing something(other then homework) I don't think about it at every. I've tried to not go on it, but it's just too difficult to resist, and praying doesn't help either. Please tell me what I should do! Dear helper72, I am 14 and a girl, and am desperate to receive rid of this and if you don't think that i am, would you like me to send you a birth certificate? I was born June 18, 1996.

13 Aug 2010, 2:40 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: i have a broken heart...help??? please!!!?

we broke up 2 days ago every my friends are off on vacation im so alone and empty and hurt i cant cease thinking of him im hiding it and acting like im ok to everyone and him especially but inside im dieing i cried myself to snooze these past 2 nights i wanna die im about to do something extreme worst of every his best pal made his status 'had a fun day with fonzie and TORI =P' and on his changed relationship status on fb his best pal was like 'out with fonz (my bf) & TORI' WHO THE HECK IS TORY!!!! :'( :'( :'( I HAD NIGHTMARES ABOUT THIS SO MANY TIMES AND IT ACTUALLY HAPPENED. i'm broken to pieces and my self confidence is SO LOW. You have no idea. I feel like nothing. ADVICE PLEASE!!!!

12 Jul 2010, 6:47 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: could anybody tell me what these symptoms could mean other than pregnancy?

This is going to take a bit of explaining but I feel like I am going crazy and my doctor has not given me my blood test results yet: June 10-19 extremely sore boobs really thought i was pregnant. never have sore boobs until 1-2 days before period June 20- period comes 2 days early (never happens) 1st day super heavy, 2-5 days barely anything. My periods are usually medium every across the board. June 25, 26, 27, 38, 29, 30 and July 3 on vacation and lots of sex with the hubby we are not ttc by the way July 4th- Crazy cramping in left side like menstrual pains that carry over to back cramps. i take 2 Advil cramps are gone 2 hours later. Much more minor cramping later that evening July 7th- light menstrual feeling cramps in the middle of my lower pelvis, extreme thirst July 9th- go to my annual check up. Doctor doesnt know whats wrong nothing looks unusual, She schedules a sono in 3 weeks- says maybe its a cyst on my ovaries; boobs become sore later on that evening and larger (husband visually notices), wake up at 1:45am hot flashes, nauseous, cant go to snooze until around 4am. Have very disturbing vivid dream, random "twinges" in lower pelvis very odd feeling. July 10th- belching like a man, sore, enlarged breasts, not much of an appetite (im usually starving in the morning) july 11th-belching like a man, craving an italian sandwich at 10am, have a medium iced tea for lunch and pee 8 times in the next 2 hours, receive shortness of breath when barely doing anything, wake up in the middle of the night 3 times july 12th- sore & enlarged breasts, belching like a man, frequent urination period not due for 6 more days....Im going crazy!

12 Jul 2010, 2:47 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Extreme weight/hair loss?

My cat is female, 14 years, standard tuxedo cat. I recently went on vacation for two weeks, and I left her with my dad. When I got back, she had lost a big amount of weight, her black fur had lost a lot of it's luster, and she was constantly grooming herself, to the point where her fur is thinning in places. My dad said he fed her the food I normally give her, as often as I fed her, and I can attest to my dad's place being insect-free (he detests insects). She is an indoor cat, she only ever goes out into a sun room when I bring her with me (my sun room is also insect-proof). I haven't got the money to take her to a vet right now, so I was wondering if anyone has had the same occurrence with their cat.

12 Jul 2010, 12:17 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: How can I help my mother while saving my own sanity?

How can I become less like my mom, while helping her to become happier? I am currently on vacation to my parents home in California. Before leaving the home to join the army, my family and I never quite "connected"; every visit for the last 3 years has resulted in several major altercations, each time. I continue to return home because I really do want to form a tighter bond with, primarily, my mom. The problem is that she is a very difficult person to be around. She told me on this trip that she was recently prescribed antidepressants; I have tried my absolute hardest to be sympathetic to her current state, but her negative demeanor and personality have pushed me far away. She critiques me at every turn, from my atheist theologies, to my marriage, to how I care for my son, even how I do my sister's hair. Aside from that, she is the absolute saddest person to be around; always moping and frowning - nothing is ever quite "good enough". When I try to cheer her up she tells me cease being silly, when I am stern and serious she tells me she "hates" being around me. When I try to start a conversation she simply will not respond. When she is the slightest bit upset she will sigh. roll her eyes, and sulk away. On this trip she told me she may be transferred to a different work sight (a very good thing) but when I congratulated her she just sat there emotionless. Its like "F. U C K! why are you always so unhappy about EVERYTHING???" She is an extreme racist, skeptic, and very stubborn. I try to be a "good daughter" and to understand what she is going through, but I am at a point where I am very willing to give up. I am skilled at doing braid and weave extensions, so I volunteered my entire day to doing my youngest sisters hair (back-to-school time and she wants to be pretty ). I noticed my mom is very sleepy lately and know how doing my sister's hair can be time-consuming. The minute my mom came into the vicinity, the attacks flew "Why are you cutting her hair so short", "What nice of scissors are you using", "dont use scissors at every", "you need to hear me you dont know what your doing", "your so childish just hear". At first I stayed quite and tried to explain the process to her, then I just got silent - I couldn't take any longer. I told her that I was just trying to do my sisters hair and that I could not stand her constant complaining and critiquing any further. She blew her cover and told me to "cease throwing a tantrum", which was odd because she was the only person screaming, swearing, and flailing her arms. She then ordered me to cease doing my sister's hair and to "go downstairs" as if I were a child. I obeyed. As I picked up my son she became irate, screaming "put the baby down! let him have some PEACE!" WIthout incident, I continued (with my son) downstairs, put him to snooze and began to contemplate what it REALLY is about my mom that I cannot stand. My mom does this quite often, she will snap at the drop of a dime, complain about the event long after it has been resolved, sulk and pout about it, then, miraculously by glad again - but even when she is in her "glad" state, something isn't right, its like she isn't fully glad, just pasting on a grin for the moment. While counting off her flaws I began to realize that these are the same things my husband complains that I do (not as severely). I dont want to be like that - life is too short and wonderful to waste it unhappy and miserable. I am afraid that a childhood filled with my mothers mishaps may have rubbed off on me - how do i fix this? More importantly, how can I help my mom, and how can I form some nice of relationship with her? (PS: right now my sister is sitting upstair with a head full of half-done hair and I dont want my baby-sister to go to school like that)

12 Aug 2010, 4:41 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: How can I become less like my mother, while helping her to become happier?

I am currently on vacation to my parents home in California. Before leaving the home to join the army, my family and I never quite "connected"; every visit for the last 3 years has resulted in several major altercations, each time. I continue to return home because I really do want to form a tighter bond with, primarily, my mom. The problem is that she is a very difficult person to be around. She told me on this trip that she was recently prescribed antidepressants; I have tried my absolute hardest to be sympathetic to her current state, but her negative demeanor and personality have pushed me far away. She critiques me at every turn, from my atheist theologies, to my marriage, to how I care for my son, even how I do my sister's hair. Aside from that, she is the absolute saddest person to be around; always moping and frowning - nothing is ever quite "good enough". When I try to cheer her up she tells me cease being silly, when I am stern and serious she tells me she "hates" being around me. When I try to start a conversation she simply will not respond. When she is the slightest bit upset she will sigh. roll her eyes, and sulk away. On this trip she told me she may be transferred to a different work sight (a very good thing) but when I congratulated her she just sat there emotionless. Its like "F. U C K! why are you always so unhappy about EVERYTHING???" She is an extreme racist, skeptic, and very stubborn. I try to be a "good daughter" and to understand what she is going through, but I am at a point where I am very willing to give up. I am skilled at doing braid and weave extensions, so I volunteered my entire day to doing my youngest sisters hair (back-to-school time and she wants to be pretty ). I noticed my mom is very sleepy lately and know how doing my sister's hair can be time-consuming. The minute my mom came into the vicinity, the attacks flew "Why are you cutting her hair so short", "What nice of scissors are you using", "dont use scissors at every", "you need to hear me you dont know what your doing", "your so childish just hear". At first I stayed quite and tried to explain the process to her, then I just got silent - I couldn't take any longer. I told her that I was just trying to do my sisters hair and that I could not stand her constant complaining and critiquing any further. She blew her cover and told me to "cease throwing a tantrum", which was odd because she was the only person screaming, swearing, and flailing her arms. She then ordered me to cease doing my sister's hair and to "go downstairs" as if I were a child. I obeyed. As I picked up my son she became irate, screaming "put the baby down! let him have some PEACE!" WIthout incident, I continued (with my son) downstairs, put him to snooze and began to contemplate what it REALLY is about my mom that I cannot stand. My mom does this quite often, she will snap at the drop of a dime, complain about the event long after it has been resolved, sulk and pout about it, then, miraculously by glad again - but even when she is in her "glad" state, something isn't right, its like she isn't fully glad, just pasting on a grin for the moment. While counting off her flaws I began to realize that these are the same things my husband complains that I do (not as severely). I dont want to be like that - life is too short and wonderful to waste it unhappy and miserable. I am afraid that a childhood filled with my mothers mishaps may have rubbed off on me - how do i fix this? More importantly, how can I help my mom, and how can I form some nice of relationship with her? (PS: right now my sister is sitting upstair with a head full of half-done hair and I dont want my baby-sister to go to school like that)

12 Aug 2010, 4:37 pm | click here to view more

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Resolved Question: Parents, do you take away recreational books as a punishment?

I have a14-year-old son and a 12-year-old daughter. You may have seen my other question about how I ground them for bad grades- if not, how it works is that now that they-er both in middle school, at midterm report cards, I ground them for the relax of the semester if they receive anything below a B. At the end of the school year, I ground them for 1 week for each B, 2 weeks for each C, a month for each D and for the entire summer if they fail any classes. This summer, I grounded my son for the entire summer for failing math and he'll be grounded for the first week of the school year for getting a B in earth sciences. My daughter was grounded for the first five weeks of summer vacation for getting "B"s in 5 subjects. In our home, grounded means no TV, computer, phone, video games, electronics, or desserts; no going outside or leaving the home; no bedroom door. When I ground them for grades, I also take away every their books except for textbooks, plus I also let them have a bible and a dictionary. I do this to reduce distractions so they'll have more time to study, and also because both of them like reading, so taking away fun books is a good punishment. If they're allowed to read books they like, they won't learn their lesson. I recently posted some other questions about my son and whether or not I should call off the relax of his grounding since he passed summer school, which he had to attend in order to pass the math class he failed. Some permissive parents who clearly would rather be their kids's friends though it was extreme to take away books as a punishment. So, I'm wondering, what do other parents think of this? Am I right to take away fun books as a punishment? Have you ever used this on your kids? Would you ever do so? Thanks in advance.

12 Aug 2010, 1:17 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Was I not right to ground my son for the entire summer for failing math?

My 14-year-old son was failed math this past spring semester. He got a D at midterms, so I grounded him from everything for the relax of the school year. I thought this would tutor him a lesson about proper study habits and take away every his distractions from his studies. However, at the end of the school year, I learned that he got an F in math and would have to attend summer school! I grounded him from everything for the entire summer. He's not allowed out of the home except for summer school, No TV, computer, video games, phone, electronics of any nice. No desserts, no going outside or leaving the home to go anywhere except summer school, unless we accompany him (we've had him arrive with us to run errands because we don't want him home without supervision, since he's grounded). Also, we removed his bedroom door and took away every his books except for textbooks, a bible, and a dictionary. I do not want him to have fun books to distract him from his studies, and I believe that summer fun is only a reward for doing well in school. I recently asked a question about whether I should cancel the relax of his grounding for passing summer school with a 95% average. My wife thinks I should, I strongly disagree. He shouldv'e gotten that good of a grade the first time around, not in summer school, and what nice of lesson will he learn about good study habits if I let him off early? I got some answers that were supportive, but I got ssome very poisonous answers from very permissive parents who not only think I should un-ground him, but who thought the punishment was extreme in the first place! What do you think? Is grounding over the entire summer vacation an appropriate punishment for earning bad grades, failing classes, or having to attend summer school? Stevie: You look, I don't like to reward kids for good grades, because I believe that good grades should be expected, not exceptional. Ever since my kids got into middle school, at the end of each semester they would be grounded if they got less than an A. I ground them for 1 week for each B, 2 weeks for each C, and a month for each D. If they fail any classes, then they;ve lost their summer vacation. I also grounded them for bad grades in elementary schhool, but not for as long. My son has always been slacking off in math, so he's often grounded for getting bad grades in math. Wghen he actually failed math this spring semester, that was the last straw and I decided it was time for him to learn a lesson.

10 Aug 2010, 1:26 am | click here to view more

Open Question: Stubborn/Messed up parents Part 2?

what I learned off wikipedia- yes I spend every my free time reading about science, history and geography on wikipedia,they would sit down and have hours to chat with me about stuff i've learned. I've even consulted TWO mental health specialists and both of them has told me on numerous occasions that my emotional outbreaks and stuttering AREN'T MY FAULT, and told my parents that they should be more open with me. But they would say that these doctors are not professionals, and that they are wrong (WHAT!!!!)It became so extreme that my uncle moved away with his family without telling us where or giving us a phone number so that "he and his wife and kids would not be affected by my parent's maniac personalities." So now, they started to "change", and strive for physical success- more exercising, instead of academic achievement. They've also yelled at me many times and call me "as stubborn as a mule"- (I don't even know why).But since I'm in full AP in high school and don't have a lot of free time, they don't believe me when I've told them that I am not that good physically because ever since I was little, they've only strived for academics and nothing else. I've also quoted many studies saying that the way you lift a kids from birth to aadolescenceis most likely their personality later in life, and that it would be extremely difficult for me to change (especially with their closed and stubborn attitude still the same), but they would again say that studies are wrong. THEY JUST DON'T WANT TO ADMIT THAT THEY HAVE BEEN AND STILL ARE, BAD PARENTS! And now, I've been having bouts of uncontrolled anger, and studies show that that is the result of couped up emotions, eespecially with teen hormones over the roof, but my parents would walk away or simply not hear, or threaten to clip my Internet and sell my computer because I wasn't using it for "academic purposes as intended." I've never been able to talk to my parents about ANYHING that relates to my feelings or emotions, and I am having serious sucidal thoughts- my parents don't believe that when I tell them, and they even said that THEY DIDN'T CARE IF I DIED OR NOT SO I SHOULDN'T TRY IT. every my uncles and relax of my relatives have pledged to help me, but even with almost daily confrontations, nothing worked. My parents have even forbidden me to contact an aunt who had a long and noisy/screaming confrontation with my dad about his ways. My grandparents are planning/prepping for a serious talk with my parents as well, but I've told them not to bother, because if ten years of talks as well as meetings with two different doctors didn't work, nothing would. I am now having servere bouts of depression and don't know what to do. I can't tell guidance or a teacher or else they might have to talk to my parents eventually. I'VE LOST every MOTIVATION FOR LIFE AND I JUST WANT TO DIE NOW! HELP! I'VE BEEN SPENDING THE LAST WEEK OF SUMMER VACATION JUST SLEEPING every DAY BECAUSE I AM SO DEPRESSED! By the way, part 1 is here: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgBr2qe5cj6tlrxofzCoVYXty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100901083803AAAl5Bc Do I do what I think is best and just ignore him when I think he's being irrational? Or do I just stay meek and opressed below this totalitarian rule of his until college?

1 Sep 2010, 11:48 am | click here to view more

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